The ultimate betrayal
What would be the ultimate betrayal?
It would be asking a person for his most wanted improvement, promising you will help him and then break your promise. It would be asking for a person’s “ruin” (that which is the most detrimental to his life), give him utter certainty that you can fix it and then not deliver.
As you ask for the person’s greatest wish for improvement, you run the risk of the greatest upset if you do not follow through. It’s not like promising to fix his car and then walk away or telling him you will help him understand Norwegian and then ditching him. It’s taking what he really, really wants fixed and then fail him. This would be the ultimate betrayal.
I believe this is what causes the intense emotions we so often see in ex-scientologists. It touches, or rips apart, the thread of dreams, of hope and of trust. Because the Church of Scientology so often does not deliver.
It boils down to over selling and bad expectation management.
The problem may stem from the Policy Letter entitled “Dissemination Drill” where L. Ron Hubbard states: “Once a person is aware of the ruin, you bring to understanding that Scientology can handle the condition found […] This is done by simply stating that Scientology can, or by using data to show how it can“. The key to any successful expectation management is the second part of that last sentence. One would expect a person that wants his worst ruin handled that he would like to have plenty of data on how it will be handled. One would expect him to want details on how it will be fixed and how long it will take. Lots of details and less glossy PR. And it is really dangerous to promise any cure in the first place as that can easily institute what Hubbard calls a “hidden standard”. Def.: “A hidden standard is a problem a person thinks must be solved before auditing can be seen to work” (Auditing is Scientology therapy).
The usual scene is that a person is indeed given a hidden standard by a promise that Scientology will cure his ruin. And if auditing or training does not work as fast as the person expects it to, he will feel betrayed, often massively so.
It is not that Scientology will not make a person more able. It is that a blanket promise of improvements will set the person up for a loss. Maybe the worst of all losses.
My own ruin was fairly easy to handle with Scientology communications training and auditing. I was a shy nerd, unable to pick up any girls. Scientology effectively fixed that. After that initial big improvement, I tended to not have any expectations of superpower gains or that my life would be a cloud 9 experience. I was in it for the adventure and I had a “wait and see what is next”-attitude. And I had plenty of much bigger gains than getting rid of my shyness as I progressed up the Scientology levels. I had few hidden standards or unhandled expectations (I had one that was given to me early on). Since I could experience my gains without having to measure them up against a problem that was a “yard stick” comparison for auditing workability, I did very well as a Scientologist. I consider myself lucky given the “out tech” practiced by the church. I highly recommend the Scientology technology – and for those new to Scientology, a service called “Life Repair” really does wonders. However, I do not recommend getting the service in the church.
But if your ruin is more elusive or the church puts you on some auditing or training not tailored for your issue, you may be heading for a major disappointment. And there are so many out there who are bitterly disappointed by their Scientology experience. And the numbers are growing coinciding with the increased focus on glossy PR and squeezing more money and more contribution time to “off-policy” projects. More demands from you and less delivering to you.
Over selling and bad expectation management is a screaming outpoint with the Church of Scientology leading to the ultimate betrayal of way too many people.
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